Sunday, September 5, 2021

Censorship or Justice?

I normally use this space to tout the things I love about writing, romance and the world. But today I’m going to discuss something that I hate. I know, hate is for Hitler, but this subject has been rolling around in my head for weeks and today I realize that I truly do hate it. Full disclosure, I don’t know the whole story. I’ve read literally two articles about it and am very likely making some assumptions, but such is life. The writing life. Karen Witemeyer won the Vivian Award for best romance book "with religious or spiritual elements” for At Love's Command. But RWA took it back because some people found it offensive due to how the subject matter was handled in the book. For those that don’t know, the Vivian is the top award in the romance writing world. The book centered on a hero who was involved in the massacring of Native Americans and finds redemption through God. Sounds like a pretty basic plot for Christian romance but it upset some folks. For years marginalized people have been made to be plot devices and their stories have been used for the white Christian gaze. Quite frankly, they are sick of it. I get it. I don’t read books about slave owners/former slave owners. And I might be offended if one won the biggest award in the romance world. But the writer in me cringes at the idea that a book that has been identified as excellent, would lose out on an award simply because it offended people or because it was from the (possibly narrow) viewpoint of a certain group of folks. That feels wrong to me and like something that could lead to censorship, if not by the industry then certainly the author. Realistically, we don’t all have the same perspective on our country’s history. Realistically, the “winners” have been able to shape the narrative. Realistically, this has angered minority groups who finally have the power to push back. And certainly I don’t blame them. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t set right in my spirit to go down a slippery slope of determining whose story gets told and whose doesn’t simply because it could offend someone. Instead, I want the stories written by people of color to be read and feted alongside those written by white folks so that people can see our worlds from our point of views and acknowledge our greatness.

Sunday, August 1, 2021

Love at First Sight?

You'd think that as a romance writer I would be a hopeless romantic. In fact I took a quiz from Psychology Today and I had a decent hopeless romantic score, 74 out of 100. And one of the questions got me thinking. It asked if I believed in love at first sight. And I do, in sweeping romance novels and heart warming movies. But in real life? Nah son. Love at first sight is the height of romantic ideals and finding your soulmate just by looking into their eyes, is a literal dream. But I don't think you can know the soul and worth of someone just from how well they fill out a shirt. To love someone truly, you have to know them as a person and not just as a sex object or even a love object. Which means I don't believe in throwing caution to the wind and swooning over love. I might write about it (sometimes)but in real life I can't sign up for it.

Sunday, July 4, 2021

Saturday, June 5, 2021

Baby Making Music

I love music. The fun of 80's pop, the mournfulness of country and the smoothness of R&B all bring me so much joy. But my absolute favorite genre of music is 70's Soul aka Baby Making Music. The kind of music that puts you in the mood to get close, very close, to the one you love (or the one you lust after). Silk Sonic's Leave the Door Open is a 70's Soul throwback so iconic, so romantic, so damn perfect that it was love at first sight (well you know what I mean). And as good as the original video is, the group's Grammy performance has won my heart. So if you're ready to fall in love, click on the video above. Just be careful, you might get pregnant!

Sunday, May 2, 2021

Simone Ashley, My My My

Yall know I love Bridgerton, right? Then you know that I'm excited that they've chosen the next actress to star as the heroine for the series. I don't know Simone Ashley's work, but she sure is fun to gaze at (see photo above if you doubt me). Bring on the tale of The Viscount Who Loved Me, Simone Ashley and Jonathan Bailey will surely make it must see tv.

Sunday, April 4, 2021

Happy Easter Yall!

Happy Easter everyone. I hope it is filled with hope, happiness, love, family and maybe a little church :) .

Saturday, March 6, 2021

I'm Here For The Rise of the Hot Asian Boy

I tend to avoid teen shows like the plague, except for Glee, Glee is amazing (well the first three seasons were at least). You can chalk it up to the fact that my teen years weren’t cute (both literally and figuratively). Or that I work in a high school, so teen angst is how I pay my bills. But since bootlegging Netflix, I’ve been watching more teen shows. And I’ve noticed something interesting, the rise of the hot Asian boy. In shows like Never Have I Ever and Ginny and Georgia and the movie Moxie, cute Asian boys have ruled. I love that teen Prince Charming doesn’t have to be blonde, blue eyed and white anymore. Instead he can be an ethnicity that, in my day, was not associated with hot. As a matter of fact Long Duck Dong from Sixteen Candles is the only Asian guy I can remember from my era’s teen movies. And hot he was not (though horrible stereotype he was). But times are changing luckily. I’m thrilled that the powers that be are re-imagining what’s desirable and Asian boys are now part of the hot equation. And I’m loving that.